Real Reasons You’re Still Single: Men’s Edition Vol. 1
You can find many men who crave for a stable situation with a woman they can chill with but find themselves lonely and unwillingly single. This is a fact. There is a perception that men are emotionless creatures who don’t care about building lasting relationships. This is one of the biggest myths in existence. While there are some men who will not exhibit their feelings publicly or verbally, most (not all) will want to build some kind of substantial relationship. Quite frankly, there are various reasons why many men stink at finding a “wifey” and are unwillingly single, especially after college where 24/7 access to clusters of women is not as great. These rules only apply to finding a woman of substance. This may not apply to hoes, cooperative side-pieces, jump-offs, etc, as there are different circumstances for those women. This is a continuation of a multi-part series:
Too Much Gossip: There are way too many men out here who hate on the next man just to get a piece of ass or to impress a woman. They will throw their friends under the bus and gossip about their personal business. This is pillow talk on steroids. These men think they are increasing their chances with that woman but they are wrong. Anytime a man spends more time trashing someone else instead talking about their own value, they already have one foot out the door and a ticket to booty-call land. The gossip is seen as a sign of weakness to the woman who wants no parts of an insecure man. Fellas, please stop this now.
The Pedestal Syndrome: Too many men find a woman they really like then proceed to place her on this ridiculously high pedestal. Instead of enjoying the moment of getting to know this beautiful woman, they become irrational. They start doing things they never done before in the hopes of impressing her. If their personality is that of a sarcastic funny guy, then all of a sudden they stop telling jokes in an effort not to offend her. I have seen men crumble trying to become some character instead of being real and authentic. If she is not feeling you as you are, keep it moving.
No Swag: For some swag is about the clothes you wear and how good you look. Swag is deeper than your appearance but it is more so about an attitude and a way of life. Having swag is about being comfortable in your own skin and having the supreme confidence of who you are. Not having enough swag is not about being corny. There are many brothers out there who are corny as hell but they have their own swagger. Why? They are content and completely comfortable with being corny and that works for them. Having no swag is when you try to play a role or a position that’s not you. Swag-less dudes smell like a bucket of false confidence. No titles or organizational ties can help these gentlemen. They have no real identity and nothing to offer to a woman of substance. Nothing is worse than a man with no principles or foundation. Now of course swag-less men get women and have relationships but how long do these relationships last?
Ridiculous Expectations: Just as we explored with women last week, some men’s expectations are off the charts. These men want their mother, favorite porn star, best friend, and all-star chef rolled into one. If you can find this more power to you! Realistically speaking, men who are looking for a serious relationship should aim to find a woman who in addition to her attractiveness is also down to earth, loyal, and is willing hold you down. If you can find this in a woman, she is worth the investment.
This is just a warm up. Stay tuned for Vol. 2 …
Coming Soon…Real Reason You’re Still Single: Women’s Edition Vol. 2
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