Real Reasons You’re Still Single: Women’s Edition Vol. 1
I constantly run into women who are having trouble finding, keeping, and sustaining a relationship especially 4-5 years after their college graduations. For some being single is not their fault and can be simply attributed to them not establishing chemistry worthy of a serious relationship. I have also seen throughout the years women who are single and they are clearly responsible for their current relationship status. From a man’s perspective there are several reasons why these women stink at finding healthy relationships and are unwillingly single. This will be the start of a multi-part series:
Ridiculous Expectations: I understand people have tastes and preferences but sometimes people’s expectations are ridiculous. It is absolutely important to find someone you are attracted to but you can’t get everything you want. I have seen various women not even give certain guys a chance solely because they didn’t meet a height/age requirement or their hair wasn’t curly enough. I don’t think these women should settle but instead they should just let things flow. If you think the guy is chill and cute, he should be given an opportunity. You might be missing out on someone of quality.
The Dreaded Run Down of Questions: Woman who are known for asking the “Dreaded Run Down of Quesitons” are almost always single because they turn guys off before an actual conversation begins. The dreaded questions include:
Do you have kids?, Do you have a job?, What do you do?, Did you go to college?, Are you looking for a relationship?
Don’t get me wrong, these are valid questions to ask however please don’t ask them as if we are in a job interview. Men don’t like to be interrogated. Ask such questions in the rhythm of the conversation. Just let it flow!
Hater Girlfriends: There are many individuals who are always miserable no matter what. These miserable people take joy in making sure those around them have miserable company. Hater Girlfriends make sure that any men that are seen as potential prospects are shut down. Hater girlfriends will make sure they play a terrible wing woman on purpose to destroy the prospect’s chances. These are also the women who will find anything wrong with a prospect just because they don’t want anyone around them to have a man.
Being Dishonest with your Emotions: Quite frankly, there are some woman who can hang out and have sex with a guy with no strings attached. For many other woman, in their minds they believe they can do this as well but they quickly learn that their emotional attachment to that man through sex is too strong. At first they have no issues when the man is messing with other mates but as they catch feelings for that man, they become jealous, upset, and feel used. An agreement that started with no strings attached quickly turns into hurt feelings. Despite your fun or feelings of closeness, if you are not considered his “wifey” there is no reason to believe you are the only option he has. If you can’t handle fooling around with a man with no strings attached, don’t do it. As the saying goes, if it’s too hot then get out the kitchen. It will save you time, stress, and you will have less emotional baggage.
Not letting things Flow: This is the downfall to a lot of women when they are in the “talking” stages with a man. Based on my discussions with many women, one of their major fears is being strung along by a guy. I totally understand this because every woman wants to be the #1 option and not some side piece. However in striving so hard not to be the side piece you can turn us off. One thing men hate is an ultimatum or the feeling of being pressured to do something. When a man wants to be in a relationship with you, he will let you know. Trust me on this! We don’t want someone to push us or force us. Deep down, men want a friend who they can trust and be cool with. Of course if the man really is stringing you along then it is time to go, but having patience is essential. Be confident in your personality and know your worth. When your confident and let things flow naturally, you will always get what you are looking for.
Stay tuned for Vol. 2 …
Coming Soon…Real Reason You’re Still Single: Men’s Edition Vol. 1
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